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018 | When 'Finding the Yes' will backfire and lead to more challenging behaviours

018 | When 'Finding the Yes' will backfire and lead to more challenging behaviours

Update: 2023-03-14
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A common recommendation is to "find the yes" with young children when you're saying no to something.


This can be really powerful but can also get in the way of getting to the heart of the matter with your child's challenging behaviours, particularly their unrelenting requests.


In this episode I share:


- when NOT to 'find the yes' and why


- what to do instead of finding the yes


- when it works well to 'find the yes'


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018 | When 'Finding the Yes' will backfire and lead to more challenging behaviours

018 | When 'Finding the Yes' will backfire and lead to more challenging behaviours

Ashleigh Warner